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u/gingerale_slick24 - 6 days ago
Nesting Advice Needed: How do I ask my alpha for his clothes without sounding needy?
Burner account because he found my main. Fucking asshole.
I want to preface this by saying that pre-heat is kicking my ass. I’m on prescription pain meds. So if this is rambling and barely coherent, that’s why.
This is so embarrassing. For context, I (22 O|M) am not ashamed to be an omega. I lurk on this subreddit more often than I’d like to admit, and I know that’s a big topic of conversation here.
That said, I’m not very good at being an omega. And I’m not trying to be self-deprecating or look for reassurance. I just generally don’t know what I’m doing.
I’m bigger than the average omega, I don’t ever want to get pregnant (it would jeopardize my career and sounds like hell), and I don’t know how to flirt or use my so-called “omegan wiles” to seduce alphas. (Not that I’m particularly interested in seeing other alphas. But we don’t need to go there). I also work in a rough, physically-demanding, alpha-dominated profession. For anonymity I can’t say much more than that.
But the one stereotypical omega thing about me is that I love to nest. And this sucks because there’s something wrong with my nest. It’s so fucking frustrating because it needs to be perfect.
I always want to nest when my pre-heat hits. (You guys know how safe and comforting your nest is - especially when everything else feels like shit). But the last few times I’ve tried to make my perfect nest, it’s never quite right. It’s like something is missing. Like someone is missing. Ugh. This is where it gets embarrassing.
I’ve been casually hooking up with this alpha (22 A|M) for a few years now. I guess I shouldn’t have called him “my alpha” earlier because we’re not mates or anything like that. He gets all growly and bitey when I call him my alpha in bed, but I think he’s just messing with me. It’s hard for me to tell what he’s thinking. I try, but it’s hard for me to tell what people are thinking in general.
I know he’s been with tons of other omegas, betas and alphas. He’s always bragging about how they all beg for his knot. Honestly, he could have anyone he wants.
It was supposed to just be casual sex. I’ve helped him speed through ruts, he’s helped me break my heats. We hook up outside of our cycles, too. The last few times we’ve been together, things have felt different.
A couple weeks ago, I was in his city for work. And I ended up… staying the night at his place? I didn’t mean to sleep over. We don’t do that. But I sort of drifted off while we were knotted together. I was super exhausted that night, he fucked me so hard and made me come three times, and his knot felt so good. It’s so big and perfect.
So I just drifted while he kissed my neck, mouthed over my bonding spot, and murmured something in Russian over and over again. The asshole claims that I couldn’t stop purring. Obviously he’s full of shit. I don’t do that.
After his knot went down, he insisted on carrying me to the shower (annoying). He helped me wash up, then ran me a hot bath which made me even more sleepy. When I came out, he had changed the sheets to these really soft ones that I recommended a while back (I have sensory issues). His old sheets were soaked after we finished, not gonna lie. Everything was clean, warm, and dry. And his room smelled like us, which is really hard to resist. Also, it was past midnight and I didn’t want to wake up my roommate. So it only made sense to stay the night.
When I woke up the next morning, I was slicked up and snuggling him like a koala. I was so wet and sensitive when he knotted me all slow and sleepy. You guys know how good that morning knot is 😵💫.
I think the pain meds are really kicking in now. I’ll get to the point.
After, when I was packing up to leave, I found myself stuffing several of his dirty clothes into my bag. I’m talking soft hoodies, shirts, joggers, boxers… his favourite jockstrap. I was mortified. Thankfully I managed to return everything before he saw.
I know you all talk a lot about clothes-stealing on here. I know it’s a thing we do. I just never thought I’d be that omega.
It’s been two weeks since then. I’ve tried not to think about it. But now I’m in pre-heat, trying to nest, and it’s all wrong. I want his clothes, and I want to fold all of them perfectly, the way I like to do it, and I want to stack them all around me until I’m buried in them. I want to smother myself in his scent. There’s something wrong with me. It’s an itch burning under my skin. I can’t fix it.
He’ll be here in a few days to help me through my heat. Fuck. I’m going to have to ask him for his clothes. Maybe for all of them at this point. I’m going to sound so needy and stupid. This is the worst.
Omegas, have any of you experienced this before? How do I ask him without sounding so needy? He just wants to keep things fun and casual.
u/knothead_joe63 [A] - 6 days ago
why are omegas all like this bro 😭 crashing my car into a telephone pole rn
u/gingerale_slick24 [O] - 6 days ago
…sorry? 🥺 :( jk fuck off joe. I’m trying not to be annoying but pre-heat makes me all sensitive and needy and I hate it
u/betalicker [O] - 6 days ago
u/knothead_joe63 username checks out lmao but fr ur low-key not wrong 💀
u/butterdog_lady [O] - 6 days ago
OP you are ADORABLE. I showed this to my alpha and she literally started cooing. who else wants to bet that OP is the biggest cutie patootie alive 🥹
Edit: thank you for all the awards y’all! sending everyone a smooch 😙
u/gingerale_slick24 [O] - 6 days ago
not helpful. I don’t get why you guys keep saying that.
u/rozy_alpha81 [A] - 3 days ago
u/butterdog_lady Yes is true. I am giving you fifty awards for this.
u/slicker-than-a-snicker [O] - 6 days ago
OP: “ugh my alpha is so annoying he has a huge sexy knot and he carries me when I can’t walk after he fucks me too good. Ugh he’s the worst! I can’t stand him 🤬 ALSO he washes my hair and cuddles me and gives me full body massages when im in heat and feeds me chocolate-covered strawberries while im sitting on his huge sexy perfect knot 🤬 I literally hate him so much 🤬” girl fuck you
u/gingerale_slick24 [O] - 6 days ago
I don’t eat chocolate.
u/gingerale_slick24 [O] - 6 days ago
How did you know about the fruit and back rubs?
u/omega-boss2000 [O][MOD] - 6 days ago
Everyone, please try to refrain from making fun of u/gingerale_slick24 any further. Let’s offer him some real advice. Thanks.
u/knotty-ken [O] - 6 days ago
OP, has your alpha never offered you any of his clothes before? Like to take home with you? From what you’ve said, I find it incredibly hard to believe that he never has.
u/gingerale_slick24 [O] - 6 days ago
He has several times. It’s probably just a typical alpha thing. I was tempted but I didn’t want to sound desperate or too attached so I said no.
u/dennykins_bite5 [A] - 6 days ago
Oh my goddd bro
u/fiona-is-nesting [O] - 6 days ago
So… who’s gonna tell him?
u/mouth-knot_enthusiast [O] - 6 days ago
Why is no one actually giving him advice? OP, you are way overthinking this. Trust me, it doesn’t have to be a big deal. Just shoot him a quick text. Something like “Hey, I’m trying to nest but pre-heat is killing me. Can you scent some extra clothes and bring them?” He’ll pack his entire wardrobe. And massage oil.
u/troublemouth89 [A] - 6 days ago
Yeah, can confirm. We go feral for this shit lol
u/honeyclaws [O] - 6 days ago
OP, this reminds me of me and my gorgeous alpha. About five years ago, my fuck buddy and I were locked together on his knot. He had just finished filling me up when he looked at me, teary-eyed, and said, “I love you so much and I want to be your mate.”
In response, I laughed, punched his shoulder, and said, “bro’s got jokes.”
Naturally, this did not go over well. He went dead quiet. I was still stuck on his knot for nearly an hour while he avoided eye contact, bit his lip, and tried to muffle his groans. (I have a tight hole, what can I say 😝). Thankfully about halfway through the knot-lock, I realised that he had not, in fact, been joking. So of course I made it up to him… hehe. In more ways than one 😈 And he’s my mate now! I love my big sensitive softie so much.
u/gingerale_slick24 [O] - 6 days ago
That’s nice. I don’t really relate to this story though.
u/rozy_alpha81 [A] - 3 days ago
Tight hole - you can relate 🍑💦😝 is sweet too
u/ImOverIt92 [B] - 6 days ago
You all are insufferable in these comments. OP, this alpha is in love with you. He wants to bite you and never let go. To put it bluntly: he wants to bond with you. He wants to be your mate.
u/gingerale_slick24 [O] - 6 days ago
:( Not funny.
u/gingerale_slick24 [O] - 6 days ago
[DELETION ERROR] I wish. I’m really going through it right now and comments like this are not helping.
u/rozy_alpha81 [A] - 3 days ago
Oh sweetheart I did not know
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u/gingerale_slick24 - 1 hour ago
[UPDATE] - Nesting Advice Needed: How do I ask my alpha for his clothes without sounding needy?
You guys are relentless. I’ve been in heat and haven’t checked my phone. I’d be more annoyed, but my nest is finally perfect, my bath is hot, and I’m sleepy. Since so many people are begging for an update:
Yes, he found my last post a few days ago and was super smug about it. Such an asshole. Yes, he showed up at my place with ten overflowing suitcases. No, I’m not giving anything back.